I have something to say.
A few months ago I met a woman out of the blue, and it changed my life drastically for the better. Some people seem not to see this or are they just jealous?
Since I have started dating Valerie Fox, people around me have changed, some for the better, which it fantastic, and some for the worse which is what I’m going to speak about in this blog.
Val works in the adult industry which has stigmatism to it, but one would of thought in London of all places people would be more open minded then what i have experienced.
There have been a group of people who have given us the most grief out of everyone and you won’t be surprised that it consists of one of my ex girlfriends, one of the people who I did call my best friend until I dated Val, and another close friend.
Before I go into that though, I just want to correct an idiotic thought that people seem to vocalise to myself a few times in the past few months. Dating Val is not, nor has in any way going to damage my ability to be a photographer. If people want me to work with them they will look at my work, not go “Oh look, lets see who he is dating to see if want to work with him” in fact it is actually the opposite. Thanks to Val I met WOLAND who is a very big name and talented fashion photographer who happens to be an excellent cook. Val and I also went for dinner with a client and friend of mine Jon Rennie, and all I’m going to say about him is he has a BAFTA under his belt and was interested by Val and her work, as any person should be when they meet someone in a different industry. All I have seemed to have grasped is that people trying to ‘make it’ are so wrapped up in what can ‘damage’ themselves that they forget who they are or how to be genuine. They become these narrow minded people who feel they have a right to say their opinion on maters that don’t concern them and quite frankly know nothing about.
Which now leads me onto a less professional writing and more a personal blog.
There have been certain individuals who have been causing a lot of trouble for myself and Val, it is my fault as much as theirs, as I have not said anything. I had the mind set that if I ignored them they will just go away, but now a line has been crossed and I am on the opposite side of it. So I’m publicly going to be saying some things which I know those people will not like.
I’m not going to go into much detail, James was one of my closest friends in London, but his attitude towards Val and myself dating her was not that of one who I would call a friend, and the second i told him this he went behind my back speaking to other friends of mine as well as my ex girlfriend who he had previously said he would never speak to and had no time for her drama.
What angers me about what he has done the most was that Val and I had him over for dinner and drinks with other friends, welcomed him into our home, he was laughing and having fun, but then he tried to hide the fact that he knows Val,(even telling me previously how ‘fabulous’ he thought she was),to then ask me to delete photos which he is in with her and even go to the extent of messaging me when we were on holiday saying “I can’t be associated with any of this behaviour.” in regards to things that Val posted on her social networking, which as a porn star is going to be in that manner. What I find ironic about him being so judgemental towards Val, several times that evening he kept asking Val for money so he could go buy some ‘substances’ as he was broke, which Val didn’t appreciate as she doesn’t do substances and wants them no where near our flat.
After that, for the first time ever, I sent him one text telling him my mind & he deletes me off social networks, as well as messages my friends saying ‘his side’ and then he begins to speak with my ex which betrayed me, I find this very interesting considering all the negative things he has said about her, but then again that’s what two-faced people do. All the while I did nothing, just carried on with my life with Val.
There is Sian, who had been a close friend, who just before meeting Val, I told her I wouldn’t be seeing her for a while as I was in a very bad place and I had to spend some time to myself. Then I met Val and Sian started sending me odd messages which seemed like she thought something else was up. I tried to tell her I just needed some space from people and was concentrating on Val and myself as it helped my mental coppacity, but one night 3 days after I invited her to one of my studio parties, it pops up on the net that she is having a drink with my ex, whom she always told me she hated, and not only that, but later on in the evening she then went and commented on Val’s instagram ‘Cunt’ on her photos, for no reason at all, Val had never even spoken or met Sian. Val is a strong and out spoken person so would not tolerate that. So this began Sian posting things over the few weeks and Val obviously responding to them which is just distructive, and ironically she always seems to do something when ever she’s out drinking with my ex (Jordan Ebbitt), it doesn’t take a brain surgeon to put two and two together, she obviously has something to do with it, I would go as far as to say the source. You see Jordan likes to play the victim, but in reality she’s quite the opposite.
I can sit here and go down the route of “he said, she said” but to be honest I don’t care enough to do that. That isn’t the reason for this blog, saying this is more of a get off my back and leave me and Val alone. I have been very patient about all of this but now that ends and if i see, hear, or get any more negativity towards Val or myself, the gloves are off. I may be a kind nice person but if you are messing with the people I love, then you don’t know anything about me.
So if anyone wishes to say anything to me along these lines again, just don’t bother, walk out my life and don’t look back because I wont be there.
(If anything in this blog offends you then let it offend you, it is my opinion)